Why don't men ask you questions about yourself?
Why Don't Men — Understanding why men don't do certain things.
See if this sounds familiar…
You sit together over coffee, talk for an hour, and realize at the end that he shared opinions and stories but asked a single question about your life or thoughts. It leaves a quiet feeling of insignificance.
Conversational habits among men often center on exchanging information, sharing stories, or debating topics rather than relational inquiring. Without intentional training in active inquiry, a man may assume that if you have something to share, you will simply offer it without needing a prompt.
Asking thoughtful questions is the key that unlocks genuine curiosity and mutual knowing in any relationship.
What question could you ask someone today that shows you genuinely care about who they are inside?
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